I wrote a response to a journal entry by a fellow blogger. It addresses her "coming out" as a fat person. I have copied my response below:

On a semi-related note, one thing that complicates attempts to "come out" is the possibility (which may even be normative) that you can tell someone about the issue and they can still not get it. Prejudice means preconception, and even the people who "know exactly what you mean" often do not have a clue what you mean when you are proposing a new paradigm. "Oh, I know it hurts, dear." It does hurt, but the point is not just that. The point is that it hurts AND that the dominant paradigm is bullshit. A lot of compassionate but misinformed people think that the best response they can give is to "help you adjust" despite your "shortcoming." The best response is for them, and you, to realize that you have no "shortcoming" in any a priori sense and to understand the supporting arguments for the position that you have no shortcoming in any a priori sense.